As I said in my last post, I’ve spent a lot of time lately thinking about relationships and SA. It’s my impression (purely a subjective one based on reading forums, etc) that a lot of SA sufferers end up in unhealthy relationships that do them more harm than good. Here’s my take on that. Most of us never dated at all in high school and university, and “stumbled” our way into relationships rather than meeting a wide range of people and then making an informed choice about who we really wanted to be with. When your options are limited (because of your anxiety and shyness) then you are more likely to settle for whoever is available. You are also more likely to attract somebody with emotional issues of their own. And when that relationship is not fulfilling your needs, you are less likely to leave because you feel like there is nobody else out there for you. Read the rest of this entry »
